Type I,II and III
I recently read a blog entry which spoke about relationships and it got me thinking of people and meaning of their relationships. So here are some of my thoughts.
As one grows older things settle in their lives. I don't see things settling in mine so far. May be they never will because I will always be young. (Ok. ok. that was a bad one!)
But things have always been in a state of flux. This is true especially with people I know/ have known and their relationship with me. So today I write about the three kinds of relationships I've known.
The first kind. There are times when people come in to your life for a purpose.They make you realise certain things about yourself, about them and the things around you. But they disappear as suddenly as they had appeared. They had a purpose. A reason. If we try to hold on to their relationship or try to change the purpose of the relationship, we would be making the reason less valuable. But the sad part is that we realise all this only on hindsight.
Second group of people are those who come in to your life for a longer time. You realise there is a newness in the relationship everyday. You grow as a person in the relationship. You cherish their company and ofcourse the time spent.
But then suddenly they also move on. This could be possibly due to a stand they took, or a stand you took. It could be because they did not see the things in same way as you did and suddenly the two of you had different mindsets. Sometimes you just grow up and apart. This kind of ending hurts most. Ending a companionship(boyfriend-girfriend, spouse) due to breakup is painful but there is a termination point. But when things fade away for no particular reason you wonder what went wrong. You try to seek rational explanations but find few or many a time none. As time wears on you realise that its better to smile that it happenned than to frown that it ended. A lot of things get clearer to you later, as time passes, or atleast you hope that they do.
And finally, there are people and relationships that stay on forever (my definition of forever so far has a limited time horizon). Only thing one could hope for is to identify the right relationships here.
As one grows older things settle in their lives. I don't see things settling in mine so far. May be they never will because I will always be young. (Ok. ok. that was a bad one!)
But things have always been in a state of flux. This is true especially with people I know/ have known and their relationship with me. So today I write about the three kinds of relationships I've known.
The first kind. There are times when people come in to your life for a purpose.They make you realise certain things about yourself, about them and the things around you. But they disappear as suddenly as they had appeared. They had a purpose. A reason. If we try to hold on to their relationship or try to change the purpose of the relationship, we would be making the reason less valuable. But the sad part is that we realise all this only on hindsight.
Second group of people are those who come in to your life for a longer time. You realise there is a newness in the relationship everyday. You grow as a person in the relationship. You cherish their company and ofcourse the time spent.
But then suddenly they also move on. This could be possibly due to a stand they took, or a stand you took. It could be because they did not see the things in same way as you did and suddenly the two of you had different mindsets. Sometimes you just grow up and apart. This kind of ending hurts most. Ending a companionship(boyfriend-girfriend, spouse) due to breakup is painful but there is a termination point. But when things fade away for no particular reason you wonder what went wrong. You try to seek rational explanations but find few or many a time none. As time wears on you realise that its better to smile that it happenned than to frown that it ended. A lot of things get clearer to you later, as time passes, or atleast you hope that they do.
And finally, there are people and relationships that stay on forever (my definition of forever so far has a limited time horizon). Only thing one could hope for is to identify the right relationships here.
2 comments:
Good one ravi .. Helped me solve a problem !! A friend was bugging me here abt his GF .. Told him to read it and send it across to her !! Solved my problem :)
"Sometimes you just grow up and apart."
Good line.
I always seem to do that for no reason.. But cant help wonderin if i m growin up or growin bored.. :-)
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